THERAPY for MEN IN FLOWOOD
For men who feel like they should be doing better and know they’re ready for something different
You’re here because you’re struggling with:
Feeling the pressure of everything being on you and everyone relying on you
Overreacting because something small ruined your day
Wondering if you’re letting people down
Taking things personally or feeling unappreciated
A constant to-do list running in the background
Feeling angry, sad, or worried and unable to pinpoint the real cause
You’re hands-on in your life: you work hard, you care a lot, and you’re an active part of your family and household. But lately, the weight of the responsibilities you carry is leading you to question yourself, get caught in cycles of “what if,” or react in ways you aren’t proud of.
Perhaps you’re facing some big changes – the next step in your relationship, becoming a parent, or a new direction in life. This is what you’ve been planning and waiting for, but for some reason you’re struggling emotionally. You wonder if you’ll be a good dad, a good husband, or a good enough provider.
MAYBE THERE ARE THINGS FROM YOUR PAST YOU DON’T WANT TO REPEAT.
Perhaps your own father was emotionally absent or didn’t respond to things in the best way. You have memories of him throwing things, yelling, or acting like an idiot at Little League games when you messed up. That’s not the kind of man you want to be, and it’s the last thing you want for your own kids.
And that’s where you are now: trying to hold everything together, doing your best to take care of everyone, but still feeling like you’re failing.
You’ve gotten into the habit of putting your feelings away to deal with “later”…but later never comes.
You tend to deal with problems by powering through and focusing on the positive as best you can, but that’s not working anymore. Things are starting to pile up, and you don’t handle tension and conflict the way you would like to.
You want to change some things, but also think it would be a good idea to just get some things off your chest. You want to understand your thoughts and why you’re having them. You want to process your emotions, move past them, and get centered so you can focus on what matters – time with the people you love.
How I can help
LET’S START BY LOOKING AT THE PIECES AND HOW THEY fit together.
First, we’ll tackle things from a logical perspective.
You may be one of those people who feels fine one minute and the next you’re feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or anxious without knowing exactly what happened. We’ll start by slowing down and looking at something recent – an argument, a bad day, or a mistake. And then we’ll take some time to explore your thoughts about that experience. Maybe you’re saying something to yourself like: “I’m dumb. I’m not good enough. I’m a failure.”
Most people would feel upset if you called them dumb or a failure, right? That’s essentially what’s happening internally, and it can lead to feelings of stress that seem to come out of nowhere.
Then we’ll start to explore – where did you learn how to talk to yourself like that, and what function does it serve? Maybe it helps you be successful, feel driven, or stay focused and prepared for anything. Whatever the reason, it’s possible to come up with new ways to meet the same goal.
Maybe it feels like you don’t have the right words yet. That’s ok – that’s part of my job – to help you put words to things that feel overwhelming.
Working with me gives you a place to sort through things and problem-solve without having to be the strong one who takes care of everyone else. If you’re worried about looking weak, think of it this way:
Therapy is just me and you figuring out how to troubleshoot a different type of problem.
THERAPY CAN HELP YOU:
Navigate feelings of worry or frustration
Learn how to get back on track and repair after losing your cool
Handle stress and problems in a different way
Feel ok doing your best instead of feeling like a disappointment or a failure
Focus on the good things in your life
Trust yourself to handle whatever comes up
Communicate your feelings and enjoy your relationships more
Stop worrying about measuring up and keeping everyone happy.
Let’s address what’s keeping you stuck, so you can show up as the man you want to be.
FAQs
COMMON QUESTIONS
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If you think I would be a great fit for someone in your life, I would love for you to share my website and contact information with them! However, I only make appointments with the person who wants counseling. I’ve found over the years, if someone needs to be pressured or pushed into going to counseling, it might be a sign they’re not yet ready for change.
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If what you’re going through is negatively impacting your life, relationships, sleep, or work, counseling can help.
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If your life is pretty good, that means we can set different types of goals to help you “level up” and optimize what’s working. If you already have healthy habits and supportive people in your life, we can use that as a foundation for our work together.
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The short answer is it depends on a combination of factors – if you’ve been in therapy before, your specific issues, and your goals. Most people begin to experience some relief in the first few weeks because it feels good to finally start taking action. The average length of therapy needed to solve a simple issue is about 4-6 months. Sometimes that’s all people need. Other times they choose to set new goals and continue our work together.
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The specific challenges men bring to therapy can differ, but therapy for men follows the same process I use with all my clients. We’ll focus on identifying thoughts, emotions, and patterns while looking for areas where you feel stuck or find yourself returning to the same issues over and over. Our work together is highly customized and tailored for you and your specific needs.
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Yes, discussing your feelings is an important part of the process. It might feel uncomfortable at times, but achieving a different outcome requires a different approach, which includes a willingness to explore your emotions.
You don’t need to have the right words or all the answers. Our focus won’t be limited to feelings. We’ll also address thoughts, relationship patterns, physical sensations, and important memories from your past. The objective is not to dwell on emotion for its own sake, but to use it as a tool for meaningful change.
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That’s great! It means you have positive resources that we can tap into. Maybe the happy moments have just gotten weighed down by baggage or blocked by bumps in the road. If you had a relatively safe and happy childhood, then working on current problems will go more quickly.